Sunday, January 2, 2011

Full House

Well the last week has been BUSY. That is only one of the few adjectives I have to describe. I will outline this past week and try to keep it short.  In November I offered for my best friend to come and live with us if they needed for her husband to find new work. There is really next to NO work in Washington, so she took me up on my offer.  Needless to say I was very very excited.  I missed her so much.  So the day after Thanksgiving her husband Josh packed up a Uhaul and drove down here to Millville.  I had only met him 1 time but I was sure he would fit in and find work, and he did, the next day :)  So the plans were made and Catina and the kids were scheduled to follow him here the day after Christmas.  She had kids from a previous marriage so it took 30 days before they could leave the state.  Well we were not sure that Josh could take the time off work to fly to Spokane and then drive back here, so it was decided that myself and Bowen would make the trip with her.  Last sunday, the 26th Bowen and I flew to Spokane and my wonderful Uncle David picked us up from the airport and drove us to Colville where we got to spend about 15 minutes visiting family there and saw Katie and Ian's new baby who was only 5 days old, Oh My Gosh, I want one....anyway, then Catina came and got us and our adventure began.  She had some great helpers who loaded the Uhaul and we spent some time doing last minute shopping at Walmart and then packing sandwiches and drinks for our drive.  We got into Colville a little after 7 PM and we went to bed at 11 ish and then woke up and 4:00 AM and left her mother's house at 5 AM and after getting the kids from their dads' house and last minute stuff, we pulled out of COlville at 5:30 AM.  I was driving the Uhaul truck with Bowen being my co-pilot and Catina drove the mini van with the kids.  What a trip!!!  It was long, and it was made even longer by the slow going of the Uhaul, 70 was the top speed except for the few, very few downhills then i actually hit 75.  Bowen was great and handed me stuff and kept me going.  I actually think I listened to all 2000 songs on my ipod haha, I don't think Montana has very many radio stations, wonder what those people do??  Anyways we made it to Idaho Falls and had to stop.  We were only 3 hours from home but the kids were absolutely done.  Fighting and screaming. So we got a cheap hotel and let them loose.  I was physically tired but could I sleep??  NO!!  UGH, so I napped from 10 to 3 then i was awake. everyone else was asleep so I read a book on my ipad.  Thank goodness for that.  Then at 6 i started to wake everyone up and by 7 we were on teh road again.  Seriously teh last 100 miles were the longest.  I was asking "are we tehre yet??"  Well we made it home with no incidents.  WE were safe and everyone is here.  We now have 7 kids and 4 adults in my home and believe it or not it works.  I am happy Catina is here, I missed her and while I know she misses her family in Washington, I am so very happy, how selfish huh?

Well that has been our last week.  Now school starts and I am very excited to get the kids out of here.  They are stir crazy cause of the cold weather, if it wasn't for their new xbox they got for Christmas I don't konw what we would have done.

Friday, December 31, 2010

The New Year

So I am kind of up in the air about the whole New Year's resolution thing.  I have some for me personally and then Scott and I have a few as a couple.

For me I want to continue to attend the gym and go even more.  I find I really have a "purpose" if I get up and get to the gym, it seems to get me going for the day.  I am sure I would see more results though if I changed my eating, but I will work on that slowly.  I find it enlightening now that I was able to play the dance game on the Xbox today and was only very slightly winded, not sweaty or felt like dying, last year the Wii kicked my butt, so progress is there, just slow. 

I also want to work on finding a hobby for myself.  Reading is not a good hobby so I need something extracurricular, so here I come.  I could use some ideas.  I am not crafty, so it has to be something that I would not feel inept at.

I am gonig to start grocery shopping with coupons.  I refuse to be a "crazy cupon lady" but I am going to be sensible and utilize offers for items that I buy regularily.  This is totally new for me and I hope it works out.

As a couple we are going to buy a home this year.  That is a big one.  Also we are going to make it a point to go on our first "couple" vacation.  Everytime we have gone on vacation it has been family orientated, which is fine and we have ALWAYS visited family, so this year we want to go somewhere as a couple taht has nothing to do with visiting family, so this ought to be interesting.  Scott even said he would consider actually flyuing on a plane, woo hoo.

As a family we are going to work on keep the house more picked up.  The kids are more than old enough to do this.  And they do pick up after themselves, but we are going to put more responsibility on them cause I am tired of feeling like I clean something to turn around and do it again.  If people would pick up then it would stay cleaner longer right?

I hope these are all resolutions that we can keep.  They seem practical to me and within grasp.  Have a great New Year everyone.

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Help I have lost myself....has anybody seen me?

So I am feeling "lost"  It seems that for so long (since before DeLoy died) that I have been spending all my time taking care of my family at home or my extended family who is in need.  It has literally been years and can I admit that I am getting burned out? Does that make me a bad person? I hope not. I don't feel like a bad person, but i catch myself praying that things slow down.  That life slows down. I have not had a paying job in over a year and ironically enough I feel like I have been busier this last year than when I did have a job. I liked having a job. It got me away. It let me interact with the public, I felt normal.  I am suppose to be the Humanitarian Aid leader in our Ward, but honestly I have no more time to give.  In order for me to give time to that project and try to motivate a bunch of ladies who haven't done any humanitarian work in YEARS I have to either take that time from my family at home or extended family.  Guess what? My extended family needs me more, especially with my mothers new cancer.  I was talking to my Relief Society President the other day and I said "any project I put together, no one participates and I do the entire thing myself." If I had teh capacity to donate and serve in a humanitarian way I would.  I told her what had been going on and what I was doing.  She said I was doing exactly what I needed to be and they need to release me cause when given the calling it was not taken into account my previous committments.  But how was she to know what this year held? 

So back to lost Charity......

Who is this lady? What does she like to do? Who are her friends? Does she have any hobbies?

Well I am going to be honest and say that I am not sure exactly who Charity is right now.  I am 30 ish and deffinately different than I was before, but I have gotten sidetracked and kind of lost my love for a lot of things.  I spend so much time catering to other people that I don't remember what I used to be like.

What do I like to do? Well I am an avid reader, and this is good and bad.  I read and I read fast. I get lost in books, but maybe that is because I need the break and that is teh only way I know how to get it right now.  I will read instead of do housework. I even read in teh bathtub.  Whenever I think that I shouldn't read so much I freak out.  Sounds like I have an addiction huh?

Who are my friends?  Now let's clarify friends, I am refering to friends outside of my immediate family.  So my mother, sisters and grandma don't count.  I have 1 friend, she is moving to Utah next week.  I am so excited to have her around. I miss friendship so much. I have a million acquaitances but alas, friends I can count on one hand.  I don't seem to fit in with the ladies in Millville, except for the non-member lady on teh corner who I enjoy a lot and I look past her drinking and smoking because we all need friends right?  Maybe it will turn into more than neighborly and we can truely be friends......maybe.

Do I have any hobbies?  Well sure my hobbies are whatever anyone else is doing in the family. So I am learning how to snowboard right now.  Do I like it? Not particularily but I will conquer it so I am not left out. I also ride 4 wheelers.  Do I like it? Kind of, but I do it to spend time with Scottie.  Cooking? Well lately it's been more of a chore than hobby.  Honestly after 15 years of being married, I am tired of figuring out what is for dinner, so if we have spaghetti more than 1 time a week, you know why. Reading? well it is more of a obsession used to "get away". Going to the gym? I hate going to the gym, but it is good for me and Scott goes so I do to spend more time with him.  See what I mean? I have no idea what I would like to do for a hobby.  I have no personal interests, sucks huh?

Well so this year, as we move forward I am working on myself.  I want a hobby. I want a friend (that one will be easy, she will be here the day after Christmas) I want Scott to do something with ME because I like it and I am passionate about it.  I will figure out who Charity Renee Kidman is and then I will be a better person because of it.  I wish I could say that I would stop giving myself completely to other people, but I am not sure that will happen because my mother will need me this coming year to help get through chemo, but we are going to cross fingers and toes that that is the end of our family drama.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Not lacking in content just motivation....

So there has been a lot going on in my immediate and extended family since the Holiday season began it just boggles my mind. 

First off Thanksgiving was great.  Thanks for all of those that attended whether it was for dinner or dessert. I love putting together get-togethers and cooking for a lot of people. The turkey was great and so was all teh side dishes, we could have served 50 haha.  It was great seeing everyone, I only wish I could have stayed longer to visit more and help more cleaning up but we had other family I had put off to do this dinner.  We really enjoyed our break until Saturday after Christmas when Uncle Scott was rushed to the hospital having suffered a heart attack.  This just made me sad. I was sad for his family and my extended family. We have had a rough couple of winter seasons and it would be nice to have one, just one where something major didn't happen to/in our family.  Oddly enough I was right behind that ambulance that saved my Uncle Scott that night talking on the phone to my husband Scottie and I asked him if he was ok because there was an ambulance going our directions.  Kind of ironic.  That next Monday I started working at Ellis Equipment in place of my Aunt Vickie.  I must say I have enjoyed the distraction but my Aunt is much better at it than I am because I can't sit at a desk and answer phones with nothing else to do. I guess I am spoiled but I need constant work for 8 hours or I loose my mind.  It has been great getting to know the Ellis guys (cause I am the only woman there) and they have been very understanding and gracious to my and Aunt Vickie while she goes through this hard time.  Imagine my surprise when my grandmother calls me the next Friday evening asking if I was out shopping at 9:00 at night (which I was at Al's midnight sale) and Emily had taken Lydia to the ER and could we possible swing by and get Mallory and bring her to grandma's house?  Lucky us we were out and about so we left Al's and did that for them.  What a family!!  They made it through. Lydia had her appendix take out 2 days later and Uncle Scott made it through his surgery and they are all on the fast track back to full health.  I realize this was my extended family but it is hard to hear of people you know going through such things in this season and I spend so much time with Grandma and Grandpa that when they worry and stress over the family I do also cause I hate to see how much it worries her and makes her get ill cause of it. 

Well the next Friday the 3rd of December my mother went into the doctor with a suspicious lump in her breast and guess what?  You guessed it......cancer.  She has invasive ductal carcinoma, level 3.  So she has a 1 inch square (almost) lump in her milk duct that is the most aggressive on the scale of how fast cancer moves, 1 being slow and 3 being fast.  Yup, what a blow.  So this monday she is going into surgery to have a masectomy of her right breast and any lymphnodes and after 4 weeks of recovers back to Chemo. we go.  UGH.  The oncologist who was the same one who took care of her previously said if the multiple meyloma (her lukemia) did not kill her than breast cancer certainly wouldn't either.  It is hard to realize that a few years ago, maybe 5 or 6 we were told that my mother had terminal lukemia and our best hope was to push it back and give her more time.  Well now it is dormant and we get to deal with this.  I know she will be fine, it's just the road to take to "fine" sucks.

Also (wow this is long) back in November my best friend from Colville was talking to me and her and her new husband were having a hard time getting good work in Washington and were getting to the point where they were going to be forced to move cause of lack of work. Well I had mentioned how there is plenty of work here in Utah for those who are willing to work and I was sure her husband would have no problem finding work and they could stay with us while they made the transition if they needed.  So Josh left his job at Walmart in Colville, packed up a Uhaul and was at our home the 1st of December.  Catina had to stay back to get loose ends tied up and get everything together and she adn the kids will be here right after Christmas.  In fact me and Bowen are flying up to Spokane on 12/26 to help her pack up and make the long drive back to Cache Valley.  They are so excited because Josh got a job the first day he was here and is now working for Autoliv full time and has a few interviews for some other great jobs in the coming weeks.  They are in such awe at how Josh has been accepted in Utah and the people have been great and the jobs he found are wonderful.  This is a great missionary opportunity for our family cause they want to attend church with us and learn more about our religion.

Whew.....we have been busy.  I hope you all have a great Christmas.  I know I will since it looks like everyone is going to be healthy and we all have a lot to be thankful for.  Here is a vide from Youtube of a flash mob singing the Halleujah chorus and it is beautiful, I still tear up when I watch it.  Enjoy

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Catching up.....Again

So sorry for the lag time.  I will try to be brief catching y'all up and it may seem all over the place, but if you know me, you know that is how I roll. 

Football is over.  Bowen's team got to play in post-season and played Kaysville and got beat, bad, they got really beat, oh well.  They weren't sad because last year they did not make the playoff's so they were so happy this year to improve so much.  I am glad it is over.  Basketball season is upon us but Bowen has made the monumental decision to NOT play, I repeat, NOT play basketball and would rather play tennis instead.  That is good with me, he is a good tennis player and Colton would like to play also.

Colton is turning 10 on Monday.  Poor boy, not because of the 10 thing, but because the weather is crappy and I am going into surgery that day.  Oh well, we will celebrate with family on Sunday or TUesday and Scott vows to take the kids and friends to the corn maze this week.  All Colton is waiting for now is snow so he can spend his winter shredding up Beaver Mtn.  Sounds like I will be spending multiple weekends in the Lodge at Beaver Mtn.

Rainee is doing well.  We are having some drama problems at school already, Her teachers will find her crying in the lunch room and saying all her friends won't sit with her, and said they dont' like her, so the teacher will talk to her friends and they all say they did not say that.  She is just making things up so people feel sorry for her.  I didn't think this kind of girl drama started until middle school, well maybe I was hoping it would wait until then.  She is having a hard time with friends cause she is really high maintence and honestly she does NOT stop talking.  We are working on taking turns when in a group.  Part of the problem is she really cannot hear when others are talking and will just break in so I am working on her watching people's faces to tell when others are talking.  HOnestly, she does not stop talking.  EVER.  She talks in her sleep, she talks in class all day to NOBODY, it is an intersting dilema we are still working on it.

Mason is doing well.  We call him Magoo cause he touches everything.  Great Grandpa started calling him Fingers Magoo, so we just shortened it to Magoo.  We love him and he is now not swearing anymore, crazy huh?  He picked up bad words when I had him in a large preschool and we have gone through every single swear word there is, ending with the F-word, and if we just tell him those are bad words and ignore him when he uses them he quits.  The end of the F-word was when he told Great Grandpa Elder to F off, and guess what?  Grandpa smacked him.  Good job to cause it worked and no more F word.  I can't wait for Mason to start Kindergarten next year.  He seems to be taking after myself and Bowen and has an excellent memory and can memorize songs off the radio after 1 or 2 times, same with primary songs, so he should excel at school.

Scott is doing great at his job.  He still loves it.  It has now officially been a year and he has been off probation for a few months and all is well.  He is shuffled all over Ogden to the different stations and he enjoys it cause he meets a lot of different people.  He is very often tired after work, but he gets a big week long paid break each month.  So each month it is like having 1 week paid vaction and unfortunately we treat it as such.  We need to stop doing that, but we seem to feel that we NEED to do something big-ish and family oriented each month.  I am hoping now the newness of this schedule will start to wear off and go back to life.  It always messes up our schedule when he does that.  He went elk hunting this year and got nothing.  He saw a bunch but had a spike only tag and only saw bulls.  This weekend is deer hunt and he is right now hunting in Blacksmith Fork Canyon for some meat for us for winter.

Charity.  I am hanging in.  I finally went to my OB again after some issues arised and decided that I needed ot have my cervix removed.  TMI I know but you are also saying, "didn't you have a hysterectomy?"  Yes I did and the doctor left my cervix.  Nobody really knows why but now, 2 1/2 years later I am having problems, so back under the knife I go, I will also be having 3-4 cysts removed and tested.  I am sure all is good and I am assured I should only experience a "slight bellyache" after surgery, we will see.  I was offered a job on Friday at a local accountats' office, and after my surgery I will go in and get details and see if I want it. Other than that it is life as normal.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Jr. Midget Football

Ok, I normally would not do 2 posts so close together but we had a big and busy weekend so here is more.

Bowen is playing football again this year.  Well what a difference a year makes.  This year his team is almost unstoppable.  I say almost cause the Sky View team did stop them but that is another story.  They are a powehouse and Bowen is key to the defensive line.  He is playing nose guard (i think that is what it is called) and he loves it.  He is also the team punter.  That was kind of a freak position but he is really good and his punts are long and far, I guess all that time kicking over the house and me yelling when he hit the house actually paid off.  They needed to beat Bear River on Saturday to be in 2nd place in the region and secure their place in the playoffs.  Well we had a great lead going into halftime.....3rd quarter was harsh and Bear River took teh lead 20-19 and we were desperate.  Since this age bracket does not kick field goals yet the only answer was another touchdown with 5 minutes left in the game.  IT took almost all of those 5 minutes but we got it.  We sat on teh 1 yard line for 3 downs and got penalty after penalty before we finally got our much needed touchdown.  We then had 30 seconds left with the kickoff to Bear River, which they attempted to run for a TD and i'll be honest we were scared, they almost made it, but we stopped them and then Bowen's tough defense was able to hold them for the last 30 seconds for us to win the game 25-20.  Here are some pics.  I am trying to be positive but post-season play COULD last 4 weeks.  I don't know if our team really really stands a chance in the playoff's but our coaches seem to think so, but I think coaches always think like that.  IF we make it all the way it would be 4 weeks more of play and that brings in the possibility of playing in the freezing cold and snow.  Is it bad if I silentely wish our team would loose?

Here are some pics.  Enjoy.

This weekend

Wow what a week and weekend we had.  First off Scott was on an 8 day break and was off work from Sat the 18th until tomorrow, Sunday the 26.  That is a lot of time off.  We are still getting used to his schedule.  It has been a year now and I enjoy it, but seriously have a weeks paid vacation off every month is crazy.  We feel like we need to do lots of stuff to make up for the time he is at work, so the time can get hectic.

The Ball:

So a few months back we found out it was time for the annual Lords and Ladies ball for Our Own Quiet Way Charity.  So we got together with 3 other couples and bought some group discount tickets with Tamy and Rick and started to get ready.  I have wanted to go to this ball for the past 2 years and finally I just got the tickets and said we are going.  Scott had to work but once he saw how important it was to me he traded his shift :)  Thanks Honey!!!  So he was off for work this week and decided he wanted to make his own costume, so Tuesday night we headed to Joann and went through pattern books and found what he wanted, it was a complicated pattern and he picked a very complicated fabric to work with, but he was not dissuaded.  We borrowed my mother's sewing machine (thanks mom) and started to work.  Now everybody I am very clear on this, I did NO work on his costume.  I cannot sew, my lines are crooked and I always, always mess up the machines and I also am a horriable pattern cutter cause my lines are never perfect.  So I sat back and cleaned house and silentely watched him lay out his fabric and cut and then sew.  In 4 hours he had an entire coat made.  A gentleman's coat.  It was beautiful, and people who know how to sew can appreciate that Scott is tall and has long arms so he had to alter the entire pattern for his height and it turned out perfect.  Seriously he didn't unpick anything, the first time and teh entire thing was great.  I guess my contribution was running to JoAnn to get stuff we needed.  I posted pics below but you can see how neat he looked. 

Now for my dress, well I picked out a dress pattern, a difficult one so I am told, and found a seamstress to make it for me.  I loved it!!  It was civi-war era, reminscent of Scarlet O'Hara and I am seriously in love with it.

So we could safely say there would be no one else dressed like us at the Ball, and boy were we right.  Tamy and Rick had beautiful outfits, so did the other couples in our group, but we stood out, and that was mainly cause of Scott.  Not only was he one of the tallest there, except for the stilt walkers, BUT he was so bright and dressed up from head to toe you couldn't help but notice him.  We had a great time and the weather wasd beautiful, especially since we were outisde most the time.  We ate food, watched ballroom dancers, magicians, acrobats, belly dancers and stilt walkers, oh and there was also a couple who were ghosts who would go random places and just freeze, I have a pic of them also.  We took pics and walked around for 2 hours and then it was time for the awards and promanad.  So 2 members of the committee came up to Scott at different times and asked him about his costume, where he got it, how he chose that and so on, and he told them he made it and he was having a great time.  Next thing we know another guy comes up to us and tells us we were selected for the Most Spectacular couple at the ball.  Another couple in our group, Dave and Amy, were also selected for Most Outrageous so we had an AWESOME group to hang out with.  We then danced........I was in heaven.  I did not attend prom while in High School so this was my dance.  Scott does not like to dance, so we never have.  It was great.  It was dark, nice music and an awesome looking man.  We swayed and held each other, but no kissing, really.....look at the pics his nose is huge and he NEVER took his mask off until we left.  Oh well :(

I wish I could put into words how much fun we had.  We are already planning for next year and will deffinately be regulars at the ball.  Please enjoy some of our pics.